最近有一篇文章在Facebook, twitter上頻頻被轉(zhuǎn)，Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed，它的原文是一名叫Bronnie Ware的護(hù)士寫的。Bronnie Ware專門照顧那些臨終病人，所以有機(jī)會(huì)聽到很多人臨終前說出他們一生里最后悔的事。她作了一個(gè)概括，有5件事是大多數(shù)人最后悔的。
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英文原文（被墻）.
Nurse reveals the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed

By Bronnie Ware (who worked for years nursing the dying)

1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn't work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly,in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip.But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks,love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have sillyness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again,long before you are dying.

I first read this in the Observer August 2010 but have since found a link to the post on her website: http://www./Regrets-of-the-Dying.html

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1. 我希望當(dāng)初我有勇氣過自己真正想要的生活，而不是別人希望我過的生活。

這是所有后悔的事中最常聽到的。

心理學(xué)上有個(gè)理論，較之那些我們做過的事，人們后悔的往往是那些沒做的事。所以當(dāng)人們在生命盡頭往回看時(shí)，往往會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)有好多夢想應(yīng)該實(shí)現(xiàn)，卻沒有實(shí)現(xiàn)。你的生活方式、你的工作、你的感情、你的伴侶，其實(shí)我們多少人過著的是別人希望你過的生活，而不是自己真正想要的生活——又可能，一直以來你把別人希望你過的生活當(dāng)作是你想要的生活。

當(dāng)你疾病纏身時(shí)，才發(fā)現(xiàn)其實(shí)自己應(yīng)該而且可以放下很多顧慮追求你要的生活，似乎已經(jīng)晚了一點(diǎn)。

2. 我希望當(dāng)初我沒有花這么多精力在工作上。

Ware說這是她照顧過的每一個(gè)男病人會(huì)說的話。因?yàn)楣ぷ?，他們錯(cuò)過了關(guān)注孩子成長的樂趣，錯(cuò)過了愛人溫暖的陪伴，這是他們最深的后悔與愧疚。其實(shí)對于現(xiàn)在的職業(yè)女性來說，這也將成為一個(gè)問題。

如果把你的生活變簡單些，你也許會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)自己在做很多你以為你需要做其實(shí)不需要你做的事。騰出那些事占的空間，可能你會(huì)過得開心一點(diǎn)。

3. 我希望當(dāng)初我能有勇氣表達(dá)我的感受。

太多的人壓抑自己的感受與想法，只是為了“天下太平”，不與別人產(chǎn)生矛盾。漸漸他們就成了中庸之輩，無法成為他們可以成為的自己。其實(shí)，有很多疾病與長期壓抑憤怒與消極情緒有關(guān)。

也許當(dāng)你直言不諱，你會(huì)得罪某些人。但可能從此以后因?yàn)槟愕闹锌?，你們不打不相識(shí)；又或者翻臉，正好讓你擺脫這種需要你壓抑自己感受才能維持的累人關(guān)系。不管哪一種結(jié)果，你都是贏家，不是嗎？——不過當(dāng)然，直言不諱還是有底線的。

4. 我希望當(dāng)初我能和朋友保持聯(lián)系。

老朋友的好，我們總要到自己有事了的時(shí)候才會(huì)想到。

多少人因?yàn)樽约好β档纳詈雎粤伺笥押雎粤嗽?jīng)閃亮的友情。很多人臨終前終于放下錢、放下權(quán)，卻放不下心中的情感與牽掛。朋友也好，愛人也罷，其實(shí)生命最后的日子里，他們才是我們最深的惦念。

5. 我希望當(dāng)初我能讓自己活過開心點(diǎn)。

也許有點(diǎn)出乎意料，但這一條也在前5之中。很多人直到生命的最后才發(fā)現(xiàn)，“快樂是選擇”。

他們在自己既定習(xí)慣和生活方式中太久了，習(xí)慣了掩飾，習(xí)慣了偽裝，習(xí)慣了在人前堆起笑臉。就像五月天的那首歌，“你不是真正的快樂，你的笑只是你給的保護(hù)色”。他們以為是生活讓他們不快樂，其實(shí)是他們自己讓自己不快樂了。

是只有臨終的時(shí)候才會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，別人怎么看你又有什么關(guān)系呢，傻也好，怪也罷，能有真心的笑，比什么都值得。